I assist people in either individual, couple or family therapy to improve their health and well-being, offering psychotherapy and counselling for a variety of concerns and problems such as:
With couples therapy or marriage counselling it is best but not necessary for both partners to attend sessions. If one partner does not want to attend sessions, therapy can still be as effective with one motivated person.
Most couples experience a range of common issues, this is perfectly normal and natural. However, at times couples get stuck in how to approach a problem. Often it is not the problem in itself that is the issue but it is the way both partners relate to their differences that causes the most distress. When a couple gets caught in reactive cycles, patterns of conflict, avoidance of issues or symptoms in one partner, chronic distance or stonewalling, can settle in.
In couples therapy, I encourage each partner to see their part in the relationship-dance and to become aware of how each person keeps the pattern going as well as how they can change it to steer themselves in the direction of a more mature and happy relationship. As partners release stuck patterns in their relationship dynamic they find new energy for themselves and their life.
My approach to couples therapy is informed by evidence based research and therapies which have shown to be effective even when couples are in significant distress, on the verge of separation, or whose problems have a long history, as well as couples who may not be as distressed but who would nonetheless like to enhance their relationship.
I work with both heterosexual and same-sex couples.
Some of the issues couples come to therapy with are:
Distance, stone walling
Affairs, breech of trust
Pre-marital or pre-commitment counselling
Symptoms in one partner (e.g. depression, anxiety, addictions)
Differences regarding values, money, housework, parenting etc
Time, quality time, lack of time
Over-under functioning patterns
This is a safe place away from the busyness and stresses of everyday life where you can talk about your problems and learn to understand and grow yourself in relationship to significant others and within the context of your life and history.
Individual or personal therapy is a process of slowing things down enough to be able to see patterns and behaviours that keep you stuck, in pain, or moving away from where you want to get to in life.
Whether you are in crisis and struggling to adapt to stressful events in your life or whether you are interested in self growth and enhancing vitality, resilience and important relationships, individual therapy can enhance your well-being and consequently the well-being of those around you.
One or more family members can attend sessions to discuss concerns and issues pertaining to their family of origin as well as their nuclear and/or extended family. A Bowen Family Systems framework requires the family therapist (or coach) to maintain neutrality toward all family members.
As entrenched or unhelpful cyclical relationship patterns become more evident I encourage family members to practice and observe the things learned in counselling, between sessions.
I have found that long-term changes for children with symptoms take place when parents are included in the treatment. Because of this, I see children and adolescents with one or both parents, or I opt to work solely with parents.
Parents are an invaluable support for the therapeutic process of symptomatic children and teenagers. Parents are also encouraged to attend consultations on their own to benefit from parenting-coaching to enhance their child’s resilience and be their best possible resource.
From time to time I facilitate therapy groups, mindfulness based groups or professional development groups.