HURT MORE, SUFFER LESS “A well-thought-out principle and long-term view can guide decision making in preference to acting on feelings and anxiety in the moment” (Kerr, 2019). It hurts more in the ‘here and now’ to manage one’s own impulse to react. My older child has hit my younger child, my partner has not offered…
“Anxiety can be reduced in many ways that do not depend on the development of more of a self” (Kerr, & Bowen, 1988, p.127). There are a multitude of ways to reduce anxiety, we only have to google ‘how to keep calm’ for literally hundreds of thousands of results to pop up: get enough sleep,…
For a decade or so, back in the day when I practiced meditation intensively, I attended a good deal of silent meditation retreats each year in the Theravadan Buddhist tradition. Some were ten day long retreats, some fifteen days, some thirty days. At this time, I, along with other participants would take a vow of…
What you practice grows stronger are you practicing mindfulness and compassion or are you practicing frustration and criticism? What we practice grows stronger, we know this now with research into neuroplasticity. We sculpt and shape our synaptic connections based on repeated practice. When we activate different parts of the brain, whether it’s attention and…
Drugs & Alcohol- a symptom of the system Drugs and alcohol have been used by human beings for millennia. Today, the ‘drug war’ receives near constant media attention even though most modern drugs were discovered and consumed many millennia ago. The prevalent view of addiction these days is that it is a disease which is…